True LOVE Story
You have to look up if you want to see a shooting star.
True Love Story
starting almost at the beginning ...
in August of 2000 I ended the relationship that was supposed to last my
So what did I do? I picked up the phone, called an 'ex and rebounded! I deluded myself into thinking he was "the one." And, because he was "the one" of course that other relationship had to end. Oh, I didn't want to be alone. I was scared.
Seventeen months later on February 15th - yes, the day after Valentine's Day - I received a "Dear Viveca" email from "the one." Seems he had fallen in Love with someone else. I couldn't believe it! Here he was a work-a-holic with no time for me. How did he find the time to fall in love with someone else! And ... hadn't I been loving and patient and understanding and supportive? Hadn't I been exactly what I thought he wanted me to be?
Have you heard that saying "I thought my life was falling apart but it was really falling together."
Well, that's exactly what happened for me. I went from that e-mail to my best friend Catherine's remote home in the New Mexico forest. She too was broken hearted. The relationship that was supposed to last her lifetime had also ended. We hung out, bonded, rode horses, cried, hugged and cheered each other on. Cat played a magical song for me called Ready for Love. I'd like to share it with you ...
I am ready for love
Why are you hiding from me
I'd quickly give my freedom
To be held in your captivity
I am ready for love
All of the joy and the pain
And all the time that it takes
Just to stay in your good grace
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After this visit a lot of
things starting falling into place - inspired - that's the only way I can
explain it . For one thing I had an epiphany. Maybe I wasn't a loser at Love (or
too old, or too stuck or too late or too ...) Maybe romantic love was just
a challenge for me like Latin, Algebra or Salsa. How did I handle them? Got
coaches, did what they told me to do, hung out with like minded students and
practiced, practiced, practiced until it "clicked." Can you relate?
That thought made sense to me. That thought gave me hope and hope turned into the Get Ready For Love! Show - interviews with best-selling authors, doctors, humanitarians, comediennes - you name it! - on the topic of Love ...
I'd like to say that everything sailed forward smoothly but hey! this is a true love story! I could and should write a book, a comedy, about the next 12 months. If you'd like to interview me I would happy to share. Now ... fast forward.
August of 2002 - after a "how-low- can- you- go-date" I decided a couple
of things. First, there are worse things than being alone. Have you had one of
those dates recently? Do you know what I mean?
I surrendered to the revelation that all my thrashing about and frantic actions to find "the one"
a) weren't working and b) weren't healthy for my heart or self-esteem and c) it wasn't
personal that nothing seemed to be working.
Then ... I prayed. I told God that I was going to make-a-move without a "definite sign" from above. This was a Scarlet O'Hara, fist in the air, kind of moment.
Next, I "let go" and settled. I settled into really listening and learning from the experts I was interviewing on my own radio show! I read - highlighted and took notes on all their books. Spent hours preparing for each show. Started talking less and listening to them more. I spent a lot of time with friends and family - took up Salsa dancing - got active in a spiritually based group - learned to focus on my abundance, enjoy life and trust in myself and my higher power.
... six months later ... I'd seen him around - had heard him speak and thought he is "a good person." But one special day he walked into the room wearing this "pet me" - white wool cable knit sweater - he was irresistible! That sweater drew me over and that started a little conversation and ...
♥ ♥ ♥
November 19th 2005
San Diego, CA
Let us always meet each other with smile,
for the smile is the beginning of love.
♥ ♥ ♥
So my friends ... what made the difference? Prayer? The song? The radio show, great guests, books, my friend Catherine?
I heard someone say "in a bacon and egg breakfast - the chicken is involved but the pig is committed."
It was all of the above and more. The more was a commitment to trusting in God and in God's perfect timing, learning to Love - to making its study and application a priority and to following the advice of the experts with as open a heart and mind as possible. Here on this website is your opportunity to do the same. You can listen to many of those interviews ... you can read their reports and fill out their questionnaires ... do their exercises and activities ... listen into their true Love stories....
Are you ready for Love? I hope so. It is
the greatest gift of all.
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P.P.S. Remember my friend Catherine who played me that
song ... Ready for Love? I was at her wedding in July of 2005! She always says
"You are what you think about most." She's right. The rest is magic ...
(c) 2003-2007 copyright www.getreadyforlove.com Viveca's true love story