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My imperfections and failures are as much a blessing from God as my successes and my talents and I lay them both at his feet.
- Gandhi

I don't like myself. I'm crazy about myself.
-Mae West

If you aren't good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you will resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren't even giving to yourself.
-Barbara De Angelis


The key to happiness is to give each task - including learning how to love yourself - all the time it deserves.
-Viveca Stone-Berry

To realize one's nature perfectly — that is what each of us is here for.
– Oscar Wilde


If you think taking care of yourself is selfish, change your mind. If you don't, you're simply ducking your responsibilities.
- Ann Richards


Don't believe everything you think & don't give up on Love until you get your miracle!


Perfectionism is a form of
self-abuse. Take it easy on yourself.


The best way to help someone else is to take care of yourself.

by James Dillet Freeman

The light of God surrounds me;
The love of God enfolds me;
The power of God protects me;
The presence of God watches over me.

Wherever I am, God is.



Tasbim Sunset/Sunrise Chant
shared by Dana Ludeking

May the Love and the Light and the Healing Energies Please Come to me.

May the Love and the Light and the Healing Energies Please Come surround me.

May the Love and the Light and the Healing Energies Please Flow Through Me.

May the Love and the Light and the Healing Energies Heal all those around me.


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Fatigue Be Gone Jumpstart e-Guide Testimonials

... from a recovering toxic relationship addict & Adrenal
survivor … 

If you're in a toxic relationship, your body is working in overdrive to produce the endorphins you need to combat the stress chemicals your body is producing.  All of the extra work puts a huge strain on your adrenal glands and can put you over the edge and straight into Adrenal Fatigue Syndrome or worse Adrenal Failure.  This guide is a must read – DON”T WAIT - read this NOW.
-Jaci Rae, Founder

I just found your "Fatigue Be Gone" e-book on Rebecca White's "Heal Yourself Talk" website. Whew!  This is FANTASTIC!!!  Exactly what I'm looking for my own readers! 

I have dealt with fatigue for years and no doctor's visit or vitamin product has helped.  I think I'm finally going to turn a corner by working through the steps in your book

-Darlene Hull, WAHM, Founder, Mom-Defrazzler.com

Viveca's Fatigue Be Gone provides easy transitions into a healthier lifestyle. My friends and I have taken for granted that we are tired all the time. V's guide has opened our minds to a variety of causes and sources that we can work on together. I recommend sharing the guide with your girlfriends and sisters.
- Catherine,
WAHM, PR Specialist, Tijeras, NM

Wow! What a comprehensive guide to solving one of the most pervasive health problems women face today! It's loaded with great ideas and tips that can be used right away. And your advice for getting the most out of your doctor's visit is truly invaluable!
Thank you for creating such a great guide!

- Cathy Wagner, WAHM, Web Mistress & Owner,



“Self Love lifts us up - brings us healthy relationships, prosperity and peace no-matter-what is going on in our lives. Are you feeling tired, burned out, pooped - any or all of the above? Put the hammer down - give yourself a hug & read on down. Feel free to contribute whenever you can - as soon as you can."
-Viveca Stone-Berry, Founder Get Ready For Love! 

Self Love
Do You, Love YOU?

How Many Ways to Say ... "I Love Me!"
(c) 2007 Viveca Stone-Berry

Self-Love shows up in the little, daily happenings. It shows up in how I care for myself and go about enjoying the gift of life and all the opportunities for Love it has to offer.

I figure I know I am Loving Me when ...

1. I feed myself delicious, healthy food starting with the Blueberry Oatmeal Energize! vs. coffee for breakfast, something fast for lunch and who knows what for dinner.

2. I married a man who adores me, Loves me, likes me and supports me instead of .... 

3.  I put myself in bed by 9:00 p.m. and get a full 8 hours of sleep instead of getting by on as little as possible. 

4.  I surround myself with healthy friends who Love, respect, support and inspire me vs. bar room friends or second guessing friends or energy vampire friends or ... 

5. I make time to pray and pause during the course of my days to connect with spirit vs getting by on self-will and trying to control everything on my own. Note: Prayer works particularly well on the golf course!

6. I exercise and “shake it up” with different activities to keep it fun and fresh. Just added stretching every night before I go to bed.

7. Discipline myself and set up healthy boundaries vs. constantly overextending myself personally and professionally and ending up on my last nerve (and everyone else's!)

8. I “bookend,” literally, each day with an inspirational reading and fill my mind with hope and my spirit with sweet dreams and expectations instead of "news," gossip, crime, murder & mayhem!

9. I get rid of clothes that no longer look good on me instead of trying to make what looked good in the past fit me in the present.

10. Go to the dentist three times a year because it hurts less if I do. My comfort is worth the extra time and money vs. skimping and reliving that marathon man scene ...

11. I handle uncomfortable situations as quickly as possible vs. avoiding conflicts and  building up  resentments, debts, illnesses or self-destructive “imagininings” in my mind.

12.  I read the comics or tune into something funny vs. being so serious about everything, everyone, all-the-time.

13. Make a point to doing things well vs perfectly because I know that perfectionism is a form of self-abuse.

 Your Turn! Send me your tips, insights, pearls and I'll post them here.
Let's get to twenty - then thirty - then forty - then ... How many ways, do you suppose, there are to say & show "I LOVE ME!"
I can't wait to see what good comes out of this!

Email your ways to Viveca@GetReadyForLove.com   Or,

Scroll down - we're not done yet!

14.  A problem often arises when we love our neighbor as we love OURSELVES ... Oops, no wonder we can sometimes treat others with so little kindness and compassion. The solution lies where it always can be found: WITHIN." ~Chelle Thompson, Editor www.InspirationLine.com; from Love & Approve of Yourself:  http://www.inspirationline.com/EZINE/26MAY2003.htm

15.  Think positive thoughts about myself and my situation.  Your thinking shapes your character. "As a man thinketh in his heart so is he..." (Proverbs 23:7). -Cathy, www.paris-eiffel-tower-news.com

Just In! From Terry McDonald, Founder, Happy Girl Musing -- 
Be sure to visit her at:

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16. I take myself out to enjoy movies my children and husband don't care to see.
17. I fill my stomach with delicious, nourishing food. I do not allow dangerous trans fats, high fructose corn syrup or other manufactured products to enter my body.
18. I read for pleasure.
19. I visualize achieving my goals while listening to my favorite music and working out on my treadmill.
20. I surround myself with people who love me and enjoy my successes.
21. I avoid people who gossip.
22. I do things that scare me a little (public speaking, for example) just to prove to myself that I can.

23. In response to your question, I simply do the things that I love to do and that I know make me feel great.  What are these?  The usual hobbies and interests and beauty pampering, then there is spending time with my daughter, family and friends (I'm a single parent) - This keeps me enormously grounded.  I try my hardest at work (full time manager in pharmaceuticals) and most importantly I listen to my body which is very good at letting me know when I am trying too hard to do too much! Love, -G."

24. What I do... I normally drive an SUV. However, when on quick trips, I rent a racy little sports car so that I can feed my alter ego. I buy berries and fresh food whenever possible I plan "spa" trips to regain my spirit and energy. Amazing what a great facial, massage and body wrap can do! - Anonymous Contribution

More ... More ... More ... To join in & share your Self-Love "How To" & visit
Happy Girl Musing! Click here to add yours!

25.  Nothing says self-love to me better than a life of balance…and chocolate.  What does that mean?  It means instead of eating a pound of high sugar, high fat chocolate every time I’m feeling down, I might treat myself to a couple ounces of deep, dark, gorgeous 70% chocolate on a regular basis.  Even better, I might indulge while I’m having a pedicure or ... Ann Zuccardy, Founder, VermontShortbread.com

(Ann was inspired by this topic and has a lot to say about self-Love & Chocolate ... click here to read more!)

26. I listen to music constantly. There is a song for my every emotion. Rock, blues, reggae, classical, celtic, you name it, I love it. Some songs make me want to go out and get in a little trouble! Others bring me peace and help me relax. I give myself the gift of music every day. Yes- there is a song in my heart!

27. I exercise outdoors every other day, in all seasons. There is no better feeling than the sun beating down on my face and shoulders. I love the privilege of being able to move my body. Imagine if one day, you woke up and weren't able to move anymore? We take so much for granted... just move. Use your muscles. It feels good. I do that for myself.

28. I do things "the hard way" sometimes. I'll pick up something heavy even if there's a big, brawny man standing by. I'll bake a homemade chocolate cake for a friend's birthday even though I could easily run out and buy one at the store. If my computer breaks, I'll try to fix it myself, first, if I can. Yes- I do these things for me because I take pleasure in being self-sufficient. When you accomplish something by yourself, it gives you a little high and makes life interesting.

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29.  I'm a firm believer that thoughts become things, so I surround myself with positive energy. I read biographies of ordinary people just like I am who do or have done amazing things. At the end of each day, I write down the good things, and only the good things, which have happened that day or that I've done. I have a goals and reinforcements journal which I use to write down my daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly goals. I check in every day to highlight those I've accomplished. It's a powerful feeling to know you're achieving your dreams just by your own hard work!                    
                            Thank you Dawn! Give her a visit at Vintage Romance Publishing, www.vrpublishing.com

30.  When we truly care for ourselves, it becomes possible to care far more profoundly about other people. The more alert and sensitive we are to our own needs, the more loving and generous we can be toward others. ~-Eda LeShan~

31.  To Love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. - Oscar Wilde

32.  There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy. By being happy we sow anonymous benefits upon the world. -Robert Louis Stevenson <<What are you doing to bring love and happiness to yourself today?>>

33.  I accept compliments cheerfully and revel in my accomplishments
34.  I allow myself to make mistakes and don't kick myself for it - I learn from them, apologize sincerely where necessary, make whatever amends I can, and move on
35.  I work to make other people feel good about who they are and what they've done
36.  I treat others with respect and try and make them feel better for having interacted with me.
37.  I have things I LOVE to do on my daily to-do list mixed in with all the things I HAVE to do
38.  I hug my kids and my husband often.
39.  I practice a vibrant faith.
     Thank you Dalene Hull! Founder, Mom-defrazzler.com - Are you a frazzled mom? Visit with Darlene & feel better FAST!

"The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself."
– Anna Quindlen

41.  Who is next? BTW you can post with your name and/or company or you can contribute anonymously ... just email moi at Viveca@GetReadyForLove.com

Do take a moment & visit out new BLOG @ http://ready-for-love.blogspot.com


20 Ways To Promote Self-Love  

  1. Get Connected. Never stop learning about yourself and Love. Read, tune into tele-seminars, join a church or community organization that focuses on Love, attend workshops (I spent last weekend at a “Self-Love/Healthy Relationship” workshop. Fantastic!)

  2. Give Love. Volunteer your Love. Is there a neighbor who could use a helping hand? A meal you could deliver to a friend in need with a smile and a hug? Time at an animal shelter walking dogs?

  3. Journal. Understand yourself. Uncover what is blocking your Love and what is bringing you Love (so you can do more of

  4. Look yourself in the eye. Stand in front of the mirror every morning and tell yourself how much you love, respect and accept yourself. You are beautiful. Don't forget to mention that!

     5.  Diet & Exercise. It is easier to enjoy your day, you, when you are well nourished on the inside and your body feels strong, moves well

     6.  Do what you Love. If you Love to weave baskets, weave away no matter what anyone says.

     7.  Notice and be grateful for the mini-miracles.  For me it is the sunset reflected in the pond outback, eating a perfectly cooked chicken, seeing bluebirds out my office window, a reliable car, Pooch Cafe, not getting a parking ticket when I way overstayed my visit!  Find out what it is for you.

     8. Time to groom yourself. Fingernails, toenails, hair, make up plus a splash of your favorite perfume. All of this and you’re not going out … It’s not trouble, it is self-Love.

     9. Get a GREAT Night's Sleep. Whatever it takes! Bubble baths, lavender on my pillow, sex, a glass of warm milk ... (self-Love is easier when we feel good in our skin.)

     10. Delaying the first cup of coffee and keeping my nerves a little calmer.

     11. Staying connected with my beloved friends and family. Phone calls, post cards, little "thinking of you" gifts ...

     12. Gifting myself new friends.

     13. Hanging out with people who are great at Love.  I started the Get Ready For Love! Radio Show to learn “how to.” Every week I
          interviewed someone who was successful at Loving themselves and others. Who are you hanging with?

     14. Slowing down to feel more, notice more and be more loving.

     15.  What about you? 

Email your ways to promote self-love to  Viveca@GetReadyForLove.com 

2007 Viveca Stone-Berry, former fatigue sufferer and author of the Fatigue Be Gone! Jumpstart e-Guide.
Viveca is also the founder of The Get Ready for Love! Show




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To Your Health! To You Being GREAT to you.


Viveca Stone-Berry


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P.S. A few more testimonials ... from the Fatigue Be Gone! Fan Club.

I'm blown away!  This is a tremendous piece of work (and us men can benefit from the info too!).  
, San Diego, CA
(Absolutely! Share the guide with your spouse and your kids. Be my guest! -Viveca)

In reading it, I also thought about the adrenal  exhaustion that occurs with Post Traumatic Stress, the holding of a trauma
in one's cellular memory because it is too much to deal with after the incident.

Great job! Big love,
- Margaret Wolff
, Author,
 In Sweet Company

"If you are sick and tired of feeling sick and tired, read Adrenal Fatigue Be Gone. It's a deceptively simple programme that will have you feeling in control of your life with a minimum of fuss. Better yet, you'll never have to go back to feeling flat and exhausted again!"

- Jennifer Clare, Author The No Sweat Guide to Fitness

I've gone over your e-Guide. Great info! I could really hear your voice in it -- & your voice, in your writing as well as speaking, is infectious...a great trait for helping others.

- Linda Alexander, Author




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