Do You, Love YOU?
How Many Ways to Say ... "I Love Me!"
(c) 2007 Viveca
Self-Love shows up in the little, daily
happenings. It shows up in how I care for myself
and go about enjoying the gift of life and all
the opportunities for Love it has to offer.
I figure I know
I am Loving Me when ...
1. I feed myself delicious,
healthy food starting with the
Oatmeal Energize! vs. coffee for breakfast,
something fast for lunch and who knows what for
2. I married a man who adores me,
Loves me, likes me and supports me instead of
3. I put myself in bed by
9:00 p.m. and get a full 8 hours of sleep
instead of getting by on as little as possible.
4. I surround myself with
healthy friends who Love, respect, support and
inspire me vs. bar room friends or second
guessing friends or energy vampire friends or
5. I make time to pray and pause during the
course of my days to connect with spirit vs
getting by on self-will and trying to control
everything on my own. Note: Prayer works
particularly well on the golf course!
6. I exercise and “shake it up” with different
activities to keep it fun and fresh. Just added
stretching every night before I go to bed.
7. Discipline myself and set up healthy
boundaries vs. constantly overextending myself
personally and professionally and ending up on
my last nerve (and everyone else's!)
8. I “bookend,” literally, each day with an
inspirational reading and fill my mind with hope
and my spirit with sweet dreams and expectations
instead of "news," gossip, crime, murder &
9. I get rid of clothes that no longer look good
on me instead of trying to make what looked good
in the past fit me in the present.
10. Go to the dentist three times a year because
it hurts less if I do. My comfort is worth the
extra time and money vs. skimping and reliving
that marathon man scene ...
11. I handle uncomfortable situations as quickly
as possible vs. avoiding conflicts and
building up resentments, debts, illnesses
or self-destructive “imagininings” in my mind.
12. I read the comics or tune into something
funny vs. being so serious about everything,
13. Make a point to doing things well vs
perfectly because I know that perfectionism is a
form of self-abuse.
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Let's get to twenty - then thirty - then forty -
then ... How many ways, do you suppose, there
are to say & show "I LOVE ME!"
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14. A problem often arises when we
love our neighbor as we love OURSELVES ...
Oops, no wonder we can sometimes treat
others with so little kindness and
compassion. The solution lies where it
always can be found: WITHIN." ~Chelle
www.InspirationLine.com; from Love &
Approve of Yourself:
positive thoughts about myself and my
situation. Your thinking shapes your
character. "As a man thinketh in his
heart so is he..." (Proverbs 23:7).
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16. I take myself out to enjoy
movies my children and husband don't care to see.
17. I fill my stomach with
delicious, nourishing food. I do not allow dangerous trans fats,
high fructose corn syrup or other manufactured products to enter
18. I read for pleasure.
19. I visualize achieving my goals
while listening to my favorite music and working out on my
20. I surround myself with people
who love me and enjoy my successes.
21. I avoid people who gossip.
22. I do things that scare me a
little (public speaking, for example) just to prove to myself
that I can.
23. In response to your
question, I simply do the things that I love to do and that
I know make me feel great. What are these? The usual
hobbies and interests and beauty pampering, then there is
spending time with my daughter, family and friends (I'm a
single parent) - This keeps me enormously grounded. I try
my hardest at work (full time manager in pharmaceuticals)
and most importantly I listen to my body which is very good
at letting me know when I am trying too hard to do too
much! Love, -G."
24. What I do... I normally drive
an SUV. However, when on quick trips, I rent a racy little
sports car so that I can feed my alter ego. I buy berries and
fresh food whenever possible I plan "spa" trips to regain my
spirit and energy. Amazing what a great facial, massage and body
wrap can do! - Anonymous Contribution (Ann was inspired by this topic and has a lot to say about
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Nothing says self-love to me better than a life of
balance…and chocolate. What does that mean? It means instead
of eating a pound of high sugar, high fat chocolate every time
I’m feeling down, I might treat myself to a couple ounces of
deep, dark, gorgeous 70% chocolate on a regular basis. Even
better, I might indulge while I’m having a pedicure or ... Ann
26. I listen to music constantly.
There is a song for my every emotion. Rock, blues, reggae,
classical, celtic, you name it, I love it. Some songs make me
want to go out and get in a little trouble! Others bring me
peace and help me relax. I give myself the gift of music every
day. Yes- there is a song in my heart!
27. I exercise outdoors every
other day, in all seasons. There is no better feeling than the
sun beating down on my face and shoulders. I love the privilege
of being able to move my body. Imagine if one day, you woke up
and weren't able to move anymore? We take so much for granted...
just move. Use your muscles. It feels good. I do that for
28. I do things "the hard way"
sometimes. I'll pick up something heavy even if there's a big,
brawny man standing by. I'll bake a homemade chocolate cake for
a friend's birthday even though I could easily run out and buy
one at the store. If my computer breaks, I'll try to fix it
myself, first, if I can. Yes- I do these things for me because I
take pleasure in being self-sufficient. When you accomplish
something by yourself, it gives you a little high and makes life
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I'm a firm believer that thoughts become things, so I
surround myself with positive energy. I read biographies of
ordinary people just like I am who do or have done amazing
things. At the end of each day, I write down the good things,
and only the good things, which have happened that day or that
I've done. I have a goals and reinforcements journal which I use
to write down my daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly goals. I
check in every day to highlight those I've accomplished. It's a
powerful feeling to know you're achieving your dreams just by
your own hard work!
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When we truly care for ourselves, it becomes possible to care
far more profoundly about other people. The more alert and
sensitive we are to our own needs, the more loving and generous
we can be toward others. ~-Eda LeShan~
To Love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.
- Oscar Wilde
There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being
happy. By being happy we sow anonymous benefits upon the world.
-Robert Louis Stevenson <<What are you doing to bring love and
happiness to yourself today?>>
33. I accept compliments cheerfully and revel in
34. I allow myself to make mistakes and don't kick myself
for it - I learn from them, apologize sincerely where necessary,
make whatever amends I can, and move on
35. I work to make other people feel good about who they
are and what they've done
36. I treat others with respect and try and make them feel
better for having interacted with me.
37. I have things I LOVE to do on my daily to-do list
mixed in with all the things I HAVE to do
38. I hug my kids and my husband often.
39. I practice a vibrant faith.
Thank you Dalene Hull! Founder,
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frazzled mom? Visit with Darlene & feel better FAST!
that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being
perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself."
– Anna Quindlen
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20 Ways To Promote Self-Love
Get Connected. Never
stop learning about yourself and Love. Read,
tune into tele-seminars, join a church or
community organization that focuses on Love,
attend workshops (I spent last weekend at a
“Self-Love/Healthy Relationship” workshop.
Give Love. Volunteer
your Love. Is there a neighbor who could use
a helping hand? A meal you could deliver to
a friend in need with a smile and a hug?
Time at an animal shelter walking dogs?
yourself. Uncover what is blocking your Love
and what is bringing you Love (so you can do
Look yourself in the eye.
Stand in front of the mirror every morning
and tell yourself how much you love, respect
and accept yourself. You are beautiful.
Don't forget to mention that!
5. Diet & Exercise. It is easier to
enjoy your day, you, when you are well nourished
on the inside and your body feels strong, moves
6. Do what you
Love. If you Love to weave baskets, weave
away no matter what anyone says.
7. Notice and
be grateful for the mini-miracles. For
me it is the sunset reflected in the pond
outback, eating a perfectly cooked chicken,
seeing bluebirds out my office
window, a reliable car, Pooch Cafe, not getting
a parking ticket when I way overstayed my visit!
Find out what it is for you.
8. Time to groom
yourself. Fingernails, toenails, hair, make
up plus a splash of your favorite perfume. All
of this and you’re not going out … It’s not trouble, it is
9. Get a GREAT
Night's Sleep. Whatever it takes! Bubble
baths, lavender on my pillow, sex, a glass of
warm milk ... (self-Love is easier when we feel good in our skin.)
10. Delaying the
first cup of coffee and keeping my nerves a
connected with my beloved friends and
family. Phone calls, post cards, little
"thinking of you" gifts ...
12. Gifting myself
13. Hanging out with
people who are great at Love. I
started the Get Ready For Love! Radio Show
to learn “how to.” Every week I
interviewed someone who
was successful at Loving themselves and others.
Who are you hanging with?
14. Slowing down to
feel more, notice more and be more loving.
15. What about you?
Email your ways to promote self-love to
Viveca Stone-Berry, former fatigue sufferer and author of the
Fatigue Be Gone! Jumpstart e-Guide.
Viveca is also the founder of The Get Ready for Love! Show