Does this describe you? Or, someone you Love?
The name psychic vampires immediately reveals
our attitude toward people who take energy. Not as obvious, it also
reveals our attitudes toward the people from whom they take. A
vampire is a taker who drains its victims.
To help and heal ourselves and each other, we
must first recognize the person who is taking energy from another
person can only do so if the person they are taking from agrees to
it on some level. Freedom comes when we stop projecting our fear of
powerlessness onto others, blaming them and victimizing ourselves.
Give And Take
Permission to give or take does not need to be
granted on a conscious individualized basis. It comes from an
underlying attitude about giving and taking.
Our experiences in life all include give and
take in varying degrees and mirror back to us where we are on the
spectrum selfishness and selflessness. Selfishness and
self-centeredness are generally viewed as undesirable traits.
Selflessness is usually viewed positively. Both require balancing.
Those who give selflessly without balance can
become doormats or martyrs or may "kill with kindness." They may
find it difficult to say: "No."
Those who take without thought are often very
kind people who have learned inappropriate ways to get energy. They
may also be obviously selfish and thoughtless of others. These are
examples of opposite ends of the spectrum. Most of us sit somewhere
closer to the middle and as with all living things our abilities and
The giver's attitude of willingness creates an
opening that enables a taker to connect to the giver. Connecting to
each other, although generally unseen, literally creates a physical
connection that we just do not see with the naked eye. The Hunas
have spoken about these connecting "cords" for centuries. More
recently Phyllis Krystal, a therapist from California, has developed
a technique called Cutting the Ties That Bind, a method of working
with or cutting serious ties that prevent us from being us.
Those we mistakenly call vampires are not
necessarily bad people. For instance a friend once connected to me
very deeply while we were working on an intense project together.
Eventually the energy being drained from me made me ill physically.
I was extremely weak, dizzy and having heart palpitations.
My friend was driving me to the various doctor
appointments and helping in any way she could. Neither of us knew
she had connected to me in this fashion. It took a mutual friend, an
intuitive, to tell me what was happening.
In meditation I prayed for guidance and saw
the cords between us. I envisioned myself pulling some of them out
one by one. I envisioned cutting other cords with scissors.
My health improved in three days. My friend
and I spent a day together talking about the experience and
forgiving each other. She was horrified at what we had learned. She
loves me and would not hurt me for the world.
What you can do
If you suspect you are a giver - you must
become clear you play a role in the experience and you are no longer
willing to do so. Say firmly and clearly aloud, "No one else can
have my energy. My need to give is fulfilled through healthy means."
You may see yourself doing service work or
another healthy form of giving. Take time to get quiet or to
meditate and ask to see any unhealthy lines connecting you to
another that are affecting you then. Visualize severing those ties
in whatever way comes to you. It helps if you know the person you
are severing from but it is not essential. Do this clearing,
affirming, meditating and severing until you feel you mean it and it
is complete. Relief and new energy will follow within a few days.
Bless and forgive everyone involved, including yourself.
If you are a taker, a psychic vampire, you must become clear you
are no longer willing to play that role. Say firmly and clearly
aloud, "I now receive all the energy I need in healthy ways. Energy
comes to me easily from the earth, from the air, from Divine
intelligence. It is everywhere and I willingly accept it from
healthy places and in healthy ways. I always have all the energy I
Whether you are a giver or a taker, you will
likely need to practice this over time. You will learn to recognize
physical sensations that go along with someone connecting to you.
For me it is light headedness and dizziness. For you it may be
different. Pay attention. Your body will tell you. Both the giver
and taker are simply trying to have their needs met. Both are
seeking balance. Both have complete control over the situation
through managing their own attitudes lovingly.
Asante, under the name Rita Loftsgard, and published on About.Com
is a healer and spiritual counselor with 27 years experience in
alternative methods. She now offers distance healing services
including "Cutting the Ties That Bind." Visit her website at:
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