Marriage Traditions * Family & Friendship
Come share yours & celebrate ours!
Do you have an interesting marriage/relationship "tradition" that you and your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend do with each other? Or a family tradition started by your parents or grandparents? Author Sheryl Kurland (Everlasting Matrimony Pearls of Wisdom From Couples Married 50 years Or More) is compiling "traditions" for her second book and we are invited to participate!. Here are some examples to give you an idea of the types of traditions that would be fitting (and inspire you to come up with your own!)
1) Linda says, I love "folded" potato chips. When John and I eat chips together, he never says a word. He just smiles and hands the folded chips from the bag to me. Each one of those potato chips is a love note to me.
2) Ed and Lillian have a rock garden in their backyard landscaping. Every trip they take, they bring home a rock, write on it where it came from and the date, and then they add it to the rock garden. So the rock garden has grown larger and larger over the years; it's a garden of their special memories.
3) Matt writes a never-ending poem to his wife. Every morning, upon rising, he pulls out his pen and paper and writes a verse. Over breakfast he reads it to her.
Names will be kept anonymous, so you can get personal! Send "traditions" to Sheryl at Sheryl@EverlastingMatrimony.com, or call her at 407-786-7747.
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Thank you for inviting me to participate in your friend's book of marriage traditions. My parents had one that I'd like to share:
Ellen and Andy were married 44 years and liked to take walks together. On the weekends before Valentine's Day, their anniversary, and their birthday (they were both born on August 14), they would stop at the stationery store, separate, and pick out cards for one another. Even though they were careful not to show them until the day of the big event, they often found they'd bought each other the same card.
After Ellen became sick with a brain tumor and lost her ability to walk, Andy continued their weekend tradition and brought cards to her in bed. By their birthday that year, she had lost consciousness. Andy went out for his walk, picked out a card, signed it, and propped it on her dresser. It was their last birthday together. She died six days later.
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My husband Christian
and I have two ‘anniversaries.’ One is our wedding day, of course. We
just celebrated our tenth. But the other is even more special in some
ways, and we’ve built up a tradition over the years as to how we
My grandfather met and fell in love with my grandmother during WWI. He was recuperating from injuries at the Hospice de Beaune in France - she and her 4 sisters were entertaining the recuperating soldiers. He never had a good for her music or her singing but he had an eye for her ... Their courtship lasted years - the time it took for him to return to America and make enough of his fortune to afford to return for her and take her away.
He promised her father he would send her back whenever he could and keep contact with her family. And so he did. Once she returned to her family for a year while he studied and struggled to pass the bar exam. This began my mother's Love affair France and connected her to our cousins "over there."
My grandmother died in 1988 at the age of 88. Not only did she return often to France but her family - her nephews and nieces and cousins - came to live with them and grew to Love America.
It was my mother who updated this tradition of connection. She decided that a family member would always attend the weddings. And so we have - year after year - been a part of the best of times - the best of celebrations. Last year at my wedding many of my cousins were there including my beloved godfather - her nephew who lived several years with them in Los Angeles when he was studying at UCLA.
Love always comes full circle. Now it is up to
me to keep the connection alive.
We have room for yours! Please e-mail Sheryl Kurland at: Sheryl@EverlastingMatrimony.com, or call her at 407-786-7747
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and Harriet attended the Master's Golf Tournament several years ago in
August, Georgia. A highlight was the egg-salad sandwiches they
purchased at the concession stands, which they raved were "Delicious!"
They haven't returned to the golf tournament, but annually, on the
weekend of the event, they have a picnic with egg-salad sandwiches!
Mike and Lillian, who've been married over 50 years, have a rock garden in their backyard commemorating every trip they've taken together. Wherever they have traveled, near or far, they bring home a rock, write on it where it came from and the date, and then they add it to the rock garden. Thus, the rock garden has expanded over the years and it's truly a garden of wonderful memories.
year I host Thanksgiving dinner and the past 3 years have incorporated
some sort of activity into the meal. For instance last year my daughters
and I painted different words on river rocks put them in small (2 inch)
bags decorated for fall. We placed them in a bowl and at the end of the
meal (during desert) we asked everyone to pick a bag from the bowl. We
then asked each person what the word they had chosen meant to them.
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