Are you ready to date?
Does it surprise you that so many people say they want to find a Sweetheart, but seem to fail time after time? Here's a quick self-assessment that you can use to decide if you are ready to date and to "Find a Sweetheart Soon!" Answer "Yes, No, or Sort of" to the following
1. Do you have a crystal clear, realistic vision of the relationship you want? Yes__ No__ Sort of__
2. Do you know the steps that you need to take to make that relationship happen? Yes__ No__ Sort of__
3. Are you aware of and maximize you best qualities? Yes__ No__ Sort of__
4. Have you made a clear choice to do what needs to be done to bring a Sweetheart into your life? Yes__ No__ Sort of__
5. Do you have a supportive team around you, cheering you on in your mate search? Yes__ No__ Sort of__
6. Have you looked carefully at your past relationships and learned what you could about the pluses and minuses, both in your partner and in your own actions? Yes__ No__ Sort of__
7. Do you know how to keep your energy up during your search? Yes__ No__ Sort of__
8. Have you finished the business, emotional and otherwise, that was left over from your past relationships? Yes__ No__ Sort of__
9. Have you done a thorough inventory of yourself and your surroundings, and done what you can do to present the whole of you in the best possible light? Yes__ No__ Sort of__
10. Have you kept yourself intellectually stimulated and interesting? Yes__ No__ Sort of__
11. Are your finances in good shape and can you explain them to a new partner? Yes__ No__ Sort of__
12. Are you ready to be honest and open about your life, sharing what might be painful or embarrassing information that a new Sweetheart should know? Yes__ No__ Sort of__
13. Do you have a good, positive attitude that is readily communicated about relationships and opposite sex? Yes__ No__ Sort of__
Scoring: Give yourself 2 points for every "Yes," 1 point for "Sort of," and no points for every "No."
Results
26 -- Wow, are you ready to date! Go for it!
20-25 -- Not bad, not bad at all. You might take a closer look at your answers that were "Sort of" or "No," but you are in pretty good shape.
15-19 -- You've got some areas that could use some work. Take a good look at everything you did not rate a "Yes" and think about what you could do that would change you from "No" or "Sort of" to "Yes."
10-14 -- Dangerous! There's a strong likelihood that you will undermine yourself in your efforts to find a Sweetheart! Take seriously these results and do some intensive work before you start looking.
0-9 -- Train wreck. You have serious impairments to your efforts to find a partner. It's almost certain that you will undermine yourself in mate-finding, or at the very least, pair up badly. Do yourself and future partners a favor and give yourself time to do intensive work to get yourself in a better place.
I noticed in my work with singles who said they wanted a life partner that, for a large group, no matter what they did or how hard they tried, they were never able to get what they wanted. I realized, despite what they thought about their own readiness, these folks had mixed feelings about being paired, were not presenting themselves well, or were unconsciously undermining otherwise promising relationships in a variety of ways.
That's why I wrote "Find A Sweetheart Soon!" -- to help people be totally ready, have all their "switches" firmly on "Yes!" BEFORE they got started.
If you weren't able to answer a strong "Yes!" to most of the questions here, you have some areas that could easily undermine you in your efforts to get what you say you want.
If you scored below 20, I strongly urge you to pay attention! The quickest and easiest fix would be to buy my book "Find A Sweetheart Soon!" You could also watch for my workshop offerings based on "Find A Sweetheart Soon!" -- go to .....
If you scored 14 or below, you need some serious work. Buy "Find A Sweetheart Soon!" (http://www.find-a-sweetheart.com/FindASweetheartSoon.html) and consider contacting me to set up a complimentary coaching session. You've got work to do!
My best wishes to you in your efforts!
From Your Romance Coach, Kathryn Lord * email me at Kathryn@Find-a-Sweetheart.com * Visit my website: www.Find-a-Sweetheart.com
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